Co-Parenting Chronicles: The Silent Olympics (Part 3)
We’ve all seen it or lived it: the Silent Olympics.
Two parents are at opposite ends of the football field. Both are cheering for the same child. Neither is making eye contact. The tension was so thick you could cut it with the snack bar’s plastic nacho cheese spoon.
The Story
One parent waves enthusiastically as the kid runs onto the field. The other parent claps from 30 yards away, pretending not to see. Everyone is watching the kids, but the subtext is loud: “I refuse to acknowledge you exist.”
It’s awkward. It’s petty. And yes…it’s common.
The Lesson
Parallel parenting in public isn’t failure; it’s a strategy. When emotions are high, silence can be safer than forced small talk. Your kids don’t need you chatting with your ex; they need to see you both showing up.
Survival Tip
Cheer for your kid, not against your ex.
Keep your eyes on the game, not the bleachers.
If small talk isn’t possible, let your body language say what matters: “I’m here for you, kid.”
Why It Matters
Children notice when both parents show up, even if you’re sitting on opposite sides of the field. It still sends the message: “You matter enough for both of us to be here.” That’s powerful.
The silence may feel heavy to you, but to your child, your presence is what counts.
Final Thought
The Silent Olympics aren’t about winning; they’re about showing up. One day, your child won’t remember the awkward silence. They’ll remember that both parents were in the stands, cheering for them.
By Jessica Oliver, LCSW | Founder, Peaceful Pastures Ranch & Calm in Chaos
About the Author
Jessica Oliver, LCSW, is a trauma therapist, hypnotherapist, and Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator. She is the founder of Peaceful Pastures Therapy and Calm in Chaos Mediation. Her work bridges the gap between emotional healing and legal conflict resolution, helping individuals and families navigate anxiety, trauma, and transition with compassion, clarity, and grounded tools.
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